Being Romantic

Where do i begin people!I know its a well written, much thought about much, too much spoken about feeling..But i want to look at in the real world sense..Not the poetic kinda way..Because we all live in the real world and yes we do build castles in the air but that aint gonna cover u from the rain..To begin with, everyone has their own definition of romance..For some it is just being in a ' Relationship', for others its a way of thinking, and for yet others it just does not mean anything..I do not know which category i belong to, and am pretty sure many of you don't know either..That said, i want to understand it better..I want you to think, while i figure it out myself..Just saying these things doesn't make any difference i know but weighing its potential in its true sense is surely important..

On a personal level, i have been considered as romantic..I remember talking about romance to a friend of mine(of course a gal)..We had our own ideals, but we did match in wavelengths to some extent, she was a free spirited person, i was restrained..We talked about dates, settings, words we wanna hear, feelings we wanna feel and so on..Then i looked at it from the view point of an ordinary man..Sarcasm, fear, negativity, stress, anger, ambition, jealousy..These are traits which are inborn in us..I feel they have such a huge impact on us that were is the space for romance?To be frank, romance can be easily taken over by sadism..It is true that the male ego is overtly sadistic, deriving pleasure from pain..It is irony as to how the two feelings, mutually opposable take shape in the same situation.. A quite dinner on the roof top on a starry night, a walk on the beach with your partner, a coffee for two, or just holding hands and walking, saying sweet nothings..Wait a sec!sweet nothings?interesting..Why would anything be sweet if it means nothing?

To me, romance is a feeling..It sure does come out when we don't want it too and does not when we want it too..I have been in a relationship, was a big thing..But what i have learnt from it is we sure are big clowns walking around with our clown feet fooling ourselves..We all need love, and am not being sarcastic here..(it is an overpowering feeling as many of you would agree)..But do we seriously need to look for it in another person..Conflicting thoughts come to my mind when i think of love..On one hand there are people saying love yourself, the other is looking for love in every Tom, Dick and yes the Harry too..But if we love ourselves will we not come across as narcissistic?And if we are too weak;taken advantage off?well, these words may or may not mean anything, but it does strike a chord somewhere in the deep recesses of my mind..

The courage to love and be loved is important..It is not enough to just say the words but also to mean it..I know people who are actually in love and those who have no clue what they are feeling..Its an indecisive feeling, leaving you heavy and bare..Single and ready to mingle is a state of mind..But mingling is not enough..I have been said that i will have an arranged marriage..Yes, I do think i will, but am i missing out on something?my life has shown me a lot, and i do have the courage to say; much more than many others..but sometimes, loneliness can be tragical and necessary at the same time..

Stepping back to reality..romance is necessary it seems; to have a successful relationship..But when you don't have cash in your hands, when your career is a not even a concept and when living is a battle, does it make sense..I know that friend of mine will have conflicting ideas about this and you too, but i just want you to think about it..feeling is ok, but should we absorb it?The title says being romantic, but truth be told some have to force it, some ooze it, some do not understand it..Where are you in this?